I made a promise to myself at the beginning of last year that I’d only work with couples that I could see myself being BFFs with IRL (soooo much easier to write couple’s love stories when I’m a teensy bit in love with them myself!). And it was such an absolute pleasure to end 2018 with the gorgeous Lucy and Joe, at their New Year’s Eve wedding, bringing 12 months’ of all-time fave couples and ceremonies to a close in style!
“Lucy and Joe’s story begins four years ago, back in 2014, when Lucy started a new job as an HR manager at the advertising agency where Joe was working as a strategist…
Joe immediately noticed Lucy. Lucy did not notice Joe – or ‘Employee 457’ as he was to her back then… “
Lucy and Joe’s humanist wedding ceremony was a celebration of them, detailing the twists and turns of their office romance (I LOVE OFFICE ROMANCES) and exploring the incredible impact that their relationship has had on the pair of them, as they’ve given each other the confidence to dream big and live life on their own terms!
“It’s actually very fitting that we are here today, in Norwich. It symbolises so much of what Joe and Lucy love about their life together: that they were brave enough to turn their backs on London, and start all over again, in a city they love and call home!”
They both really enjoyed the process of working through their love story. Over the course of our time together, as we planned what shape their humanist wedding ceremony would take, they shared many standout moments of their relationship with me, including a hilarious early misstep that involved Joe, Lucy and… a Vaseline tin (which, of course, made its way into their ceremony!).
Image by Beth Moseley
‘Lucy promptly left the party thereafter, leaving Joe wondering how he could find an excuse to speak to her again – crucially, without it being awkward and weird at work.
When he got up the next day, he stumbled into the living room, bleary eyed, and spotted a small tub of Vaseline lip balm, lying in the middle of the floor. It was Lucy’s.
It was at this moment that inspiration struck!
Putting all sense aside, Joe hatched his terrible plan. He scrawled a short note saying “your music taste is unreal. Fancy a drink?” and put it inside the tub for Lucy to discover. It was, he thought, an irresistibly charming move!
On Monday morning, Joe delivered the Vaseline tin to Lucy and gleefully headed back to his desk awaiting her delighted response!
As the hours ticked by, Joe realised, with a growing sense of unease, that the note in the Vaseline tin was perhaps not the adorable idea he’d first imagined it was… and it dawned on him that he’d actually done… everything possible to increase the awkwardness and weirdness at work!
Eventually, after an excruciating 24 hours of silence, Joe finally received a message confirming that the note had been discovered… Lucy’s response, while polite and friendly, completely avoided answering the invite for a drink. Oof!
This exchange set the tone for several weeks of rejection for Joe.’
Brilliantly, the Vaseline tin reappeared when Joe came to propose to Lucy many years later (it’s a recurring motif in their relationship!). Joe engraved a poem in the lid of a Vaseline tin, which he then put the engagement ring inside! I did SO enjoy the retelling of that story on the day!
Joe and Lucy were pretty much my ideal couple: open about themselves, curious about the world around them, and bloody hilarious to boot. I’m so happy they asked me to be a part of their day, and I hope they know this isn’t the end of ‘us’ now.
2018 was all about celebrating with couples who would be friends… there’s no shaking me off now!