1. Humanist weddings aren’t just non-religious. They’re ceremonies that are designed all-around YOU.
How is that different from the formulaic registry office ceremony? Well, I’ll tell you. Instead of you being two names on a list of ten for the day, your celebrant works closely with you as a couple to get to know you properly, and writes a ceremony that authentically reflects your relationship. You can read more about how I work here.
Humanist weddings are totally template-free zones. You may be wondering what these ceremonies actually involve, then, if there’s no legal or church stuff, and the answer is, excitingly, WHATEVER YOU WANT. There’s no requirement for how the ceremony should go – just that it needs to be exactly what you want it to be! Here’s my guide to a personal wedding ceremony…
2. You can hold your ceremony anywhere you so wish.
Whereas registrar ceremonies have to be held in certain places because of licensing rules (BORING), you can hold your humanist ceremony ANYWHERE.
Think back to where feels of massive significance to you two, or played a pivotal role in your life – see how we’re coming back to point numero uno? Your humanist wedding is all about you, and every single choice you make can reflect that significance. From a logistical point of view, it also means you can minimise faff, as you can have your ceremony in the same space as your reception area regardless of whether it’s licensed or not.
3. They’re a judgment-free zone.
The whole point of humanism is to celebrate humans – and that love is the biggie. Humanist weddings are bound only by a love of each other and one another – anything outside of that is pretty much up to you (unless you’ve, you know, got five other spouses spread across the Home Counties). They come with no assumptions and little to no prerequisites (please see Bigamy, as above). This means that we work with couples however they identify – if you’re two humans in love, I’m here for it. Humanist ceremonies also come with no subtext of starting a family, or of subordination or total devotion; adoration – yes. Devotion – not necessary.
4. They’re a RIOT.
Honestly, if you’ve been to your fair share of ceremonies where the names have been pronounced wrong, you’ve had to listen to a whole congregation tell the vicar their favourite sandwich or you’ve had to sit through hymns that are more funereal than fun, you may have come to hate wedding ceremonies entirely. Not to toot my own horn – toot TOOT – but Humanist wedding ceremonies with me will change all that.
As they’re totally crafted around you, if you’re a hoot (and I know you are), then they’re a hoot. Instead of a registrar’s template jobbo, where you’re totally at the whim of lady luck as to whether you get a nice registrar or not, you know exactly what you’re getting when you book your celebrant, and they know exactly what you’re looking for too. For example, I love weddings that are full of love, laughter and noisiness.
They’re joyous, poignant and emotional, your names will be pronounced perfectly, and we can swap Jerusalem for New York, New York, if that’s more your vibe. Your guests will be complaining that it wasn’t long enough – trust me.
5. Your money gives back.
If you pick a Humanists UK Accredited celebrant, part of the fee you’ll pay for your celebrant goes back to Humanists UK, the accrediting body for Humanist celebrants and a charity committed to improving our lives (no biggy). The campaigns they’ve worked on include equal marriage, abortion rights, assisted dying, and many other things that so desperately need (or needed) big change – so your ceremony will indirectly, but indisputably, help those in need.
Wanna chat more about Humanist wedding ceremonies? Babes, I can talk about them ALL DAY.